hey yeah i dont really know what else to say apart from the fact that i could use some help ive never really tried seeking help before cause people dont really see me as the "harming type" and yeahh...add me? help me?

EVERYONE: Would you like to start SHA on facebook? If so i am happy to do this as i am contactable more so on fb than on bebo as i only come on here once or twice a month now a days.Please let me know thru bebo mail.

Hannah - You've already proven to yourself that you can give up and that you can do it so you just need to be strong and remind yourself that you can. remind yourself that you're worth it and that giving up is beneficial to you and your future. Use your old techniques that you used the first time, check out the albums for more ideas and stuff. You can get through this. Refind your reason to quit. xoxoxo Becky.

ok i not so good with words at the moment, so bear with me. I've started to self harm again after three months free of it and it's all because my ex has been driving me crazy, im not willing to put the full story on here but if he has hurt me a lot and tryed to get me to do stuff i didn't want to do so I got upset and self harmed and now find myself doing about a hundread cuts a week now Help please?! xx

Add me, private mail me you'r story, ill help you asmuch as i can to beat this addiction , iv been throguh the same thing, i know what you are going through your not alone no matter how much your convinced you are. i will listen and never judge you. and if its a private mail it will always be anonumouse no one will ever find out what you have wrote or what you are going throgh . add mee.... privatee maill me or comment mee Say no to Self harming

Suicide Kandi - Hey Hunni, welcome to SHA. Add our official site too www.selfharmersanonymous.webs.com You've made the firs step coming to us for help, coming to anyone for help it's hard but its the first step. First thing you need to do is work on forgiving your ex for taking her own life. You will never know who's "fault" it was but you need to forgive her for it. Work on figuring out what your triggers are, then use that knowledge to avoid the siuations that will cause you to want to harm. If you have stopped briefly befor eyou know you can do it >Get a calendar and mark off each day you go harm free with a bright coloured pen to count your days, if you can see it then sometimes it helps. xx good luck. Becky.

ima 14 year old girl who self injures by cutting.. i lost my ex due to suicide she killed herself and i believed it was my fault i still dont know if it is but i struggle everyday with self harm everday i dont cut is a good day and i stopped for awhile.. but it came back it felt as if i needed it to feel normal but then i feel not so normal when i do it im not sure if anyone culd help im just seeking..for help but alot of the time i dnt get it and when i do i push it away

William Clark - Hey mate welcome to SHA. You can do loads of things for your wife when she's told you that she has cut herself, the number one thing to remember though is DONT get angry. Anger inflames the situation and makes things worse as it can often send a harmer on a guilt trip whether meant or not, and this can result in the urge to harm more. try learning the reasons behind her harming, like is it a release for sadness/negative emotion, stress, anger, or is it habit. Once you know the reasons behind it then you can learn more abotu what to say. If it's being upset, then comfort, if it's being stressed, then relaxation suggestions or hugs or something etc etc... Check out the album for friends and family. More suggestions in there. good luck. xxx becky.

h hun im not a self harmer but my wife is we seperated over a yr ago after we lost r 9 yr old son w get on great nw and i hope we can get bk together but i never knw what to say im scared i might say the wrong thing when she tells me shes cut herself hw can i help her xx

Eleanor - Well done on nearly 4 months harm free lovely, You're dong a great job. Just rememeber that even if you do harm and you are going thru a rough patch and thre's a slip up that you ahve made 4 months before and so you can do it again when yous tart fresh. remember every day is a new day. Be strong hun. You know where to find me xoxox Becky kisses and wishes.

i'm only 13 and used to carve words into my arm last year, people didn't believe I could have depression because of my age but trust me I did. I lost many friends because of it too, they were not prepared to handle someone so emotionally caught up. I finally got help though and have been cut free for about FOUR months! It feels great, of course there a days when I sometimes what to cut again to take away some emotional pain but I always remind myself IT ISN'T WORTH IT! I'm hoping I stay as happy and hopeful as I am now...I turn 14 in August and have amazing supportive friends xxx

thanx...yeah ive had a few, same to you! one day i will kick it

Michael - Everyone has at least one relapse. I'm yet to meet a harmer that hasn't had a relapse during their recovery. Myself, well i've had about 20 relapses >.< and i'm currently trying to stop again as we speak. Be strong and believe that you can get through the tough times that you are having. because you can. THink of all the shit you've gotten past already and use that to motivate you. You can do this, use your techniques, even try writing a list of them down and putting it on your wall somewhere. Be strong lovely. xxx Becky.

yeah...my last comments were all like (oh look at me mr reformed self harmer my advice and all that) i am VERY dangerously close to a relapse right now, i dont know what to do, bugger...

http://www.thesite.org/healthandwell... If anyone ever feels the urge to hurt themselves, I recommend this page. It kept me distracted and stopped me from harming (: And if anybody needs someone to talk to, you can add me if you want and I'll try to help you. I have Bipolar and I'm finally learning to cope, and I'd like to help others cope with depression and see that there really is hope, and things get better (:

Fuck face - that's alright. i dont know what the meaning of life is either. I put it down to Live, Laugh, Love and grow. That's what we're here for. To live our lives, laugh with friends, and love everyone and everything int he world. and to grow. Mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually. I dont mean you ahve to beleive in god. because i dont i believe in something else but you are meant to grow within yourself. You can never stop learning more about anything, yourself or others. xxx becky

"i HATE being turned down for some guy whos a twat i just cannot deal with the embarassment, heartbrake. and all that im going mad and im beginning to think that evry girls job is to hurt me personally .. as crazy and stupid as it sounds but i like this page cuz it reminds me im not alone and there are people who give a shit about others and so on.. its easy to forget that your not alone.." ive been there , this is a comment i posted on this page on the 18th 05 09

from being through all that shit i remember as clear as day, its VERY hard to stop, getting of smoking was a breeze compared to it A Simple Cullen'S GirlX, i was cheated on too, and it really fucks with your head, the same thing started it for me, he isnt worth it, try to love yourself ... sorry but i feel as if i owe alot to this page...

i added you on msn btw; hope you dont mind

im soo lost i really dont know what im doing with myself; i just found out my friend just hung himself and NO-ONE saw it coming and iv been studying about James Bulger; and it got me thinking. the world i such a horrible place, what is the point of life exactly?? we're born to die. what is the point? seriously. i dont know!