"O prophet, tell your wives, daughters and believing women to draw their outer garments around them (when they go out or are among men). That is better in order that they should be known (as Muslims or as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allah is Ever Forgiving and Most Merciful." [Quran 33:59]



OK two women, woman on the left and the woman on the right, both cover their heads with scarves when going out, your job is to guess which one of these two, has to put up with questions like:
' Excuse me, what's that thing that you wear on your head?' or 'How can you breathe when you are wrapped up like this?' or ' Do you have to wear this thing when you go to sleep?' or 'Do you ever take it off?' or 'Why do you hide your hair?' or 'Do you have hair?' or 'What's religion got to do with hair?' or ' I wonder what's your hair like?' or ' Geez, you don't have to wear this here,....this is America!' or ' I wonder if different colors scarves mean anything?' or ' Dont you feel hot wearing it all day long?' etc etc.
This goes on and on. And at times like this Muslim women cant help but wonder 'why is common sense so uncommon around here?' And then they try patiently to eduacate one person at a time.

Hijab :

The word 'Hijab' comes from the Arabic word 'Hijaba' meaning 'to hide from view or conceal.' A Muslim woman who covers her head is making a statement about her identity. Anyone who sees her will know that shes a Muslim woman and has a good moral character. They hide their bodies and beauty, from the lustful eyes of men, and thus they feel comfortable and free in or outside the house. FREE in the real sense of the word

Lets put an end to this curiosity about head scarves:
Muslim women dont cover their bodies and hair because their father or husband or brothers told them to but they only do it because its an Order of Allah. They do it to please their God and not to please anybody else.
* 'This thing' that Muslim women wear on their heads is called (head) scarf or Hijab or Khimar.
* No! Different colors do not mean or represent anything.
* Muslim women are required to cover their hair and bodies when going out, or infront of men (who are not related to them.)
* Yes, they do take these things off, when at home.
* No! They don't wear 'it' in shower or when going to bed at night, only when going out.

*Covering your hair is not the 'weird thing', being almost naked in public is.
Is it not humiliating to suggest that the ideal American woman is the one who looks best in a swim suit or an evening gown? However instead of pushing for modesty in their dress codes, American women have began to wear less and less clothing as a symbol of their " freedom" to go against society. That has resulted in a society where women are being used as food for hungry, in advertising, entertainment and in deciding everyday how she should look.
It has degraded them as women and as human beings. They have been turned into objects that are sold on billboard and gawked at in a beauty pageant. And thats considered "Normal.," not showing off your body, cleavage or hair is the weird thing! What has happened to us?
Think:
What's the difference between Miss Universe Pageant show and Horse and Cattle show? Not much, only the best looking ones win. And yet some how the world finds Islam responsible for degrading women and not leting them enjoy their full rights just because they have to cover their hair and dress modestly just like their ancestors.



Newsflash: Being able to commit sins freely, wherever you want, whenever you want, is that really freedom or is that really freedom to do evil freely in public? Muslim women DO NOT need that kind of freedom to attract men in the street and if you ask them they would tell you 'No thanks, we are very happy they way we are, all covered up!'

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Importance of Marriage in Islam

Allah has created men and women as company for one another, and so that they can procreate and live in peace and tranquillity according to the commandments of Allah and the directions of His Messenger. The Qur'an says:

And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your hearts. Undoubtedly in these are signs for those who reflect. (30:21)
And Allah has made for you your mates of your own nature, and made for you, out of them, sons and daughters and grandchildren, and provided for you sustenance of the best. (16:72)
These verses of the Noble Qur'an clearly show that in contrast to other religions like Christianity, Buddhism, Judaism etc. which consider celibacy or monasticism as a great virtue and a means of salvation, Islam considers marriage as one of the most virtuous and approved institutions. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) declared, "There is no monasticism in Islam." He further ordained,

"O you young men! Whoever is able to marry should marry, for that will help him to lower his gaze and guard his modesty." (Al-Bukhari)
Modesty was regarded as a great virtue by the Prophet. He said, "Modesty is part of faith." (Al-Bukhari)
The importance of the institution or marriage receives its greatest emphasis from the following hadith of the Prophet,


"Marriage is my sunna. Whosoever keeps away from it is not from me."
With these Qur'anic injunctions and the guidance from the Prophet (peace be upon him) in mind, we shall examine the institution of marriage in the Shari'ah.
The word zawaj is used in the Qur'an to signify a pair or a mate. But in common parlance it stands for marriage. Since the family is the nucleus of Islamic society, and marriage is the only way to bring families into existence, the Prophet (peace be upon him) insisted upon his followers entering into marriage The Shari'ah prescribes rules to regulate the functioning of the family so that both spouses can live together in love, security, and tranquillity. Marriage in Islam has aspects of both 'ibadah (worship) of Allah and mu'amalah (transactions between human beings).

In its 'ibadah aspect, marriage is an act pleasing to Allah because it is in accordance with his commandments that husband and wife love each other and help each other to make efforts to continue the human race and rear and nurse their children to become true servants of Allah.

In its mu'amalah aspect, marriage being a lawful response to the basic biological instinct to have sexual intercourse and to procreate children, the Shari'ah has prescribed detailed rules for translating this response into a living human institution reinforced by a whole framework of legally enforceable rights and duties, not only of the spouses, but also of their offspring.

These aspects are beautifully explained in a tradition of the Prophet. It is narrated by Anas that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said,


"When a man marries, he has fulfilled half of his religion, so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half."
The Prophet considered marriage for a Muslim as half of his religion because it shields him from promiscuity, adultery, fornication, homosexuality etc., which ultimately lead to many other evils like slander, quarreling, homicide, loss of property and disintegration of the family. According to the Prophet (peace be upon him) the remaining half of the faith can be saved by taqwa.



Conditions of Marriage
Careful consideration of the Qur'anic injunctions and the traditions of the Prophet (peace be upon him) clearly show that marriage is compulsory (wajib) for a man who has the means to easily pay the mahr (dowry) and to support a wife and children, and is healthy, and fears that if does not marry, he may be tempted to commit fornication (zina). It is also compulsory for a woman who has no

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THE QUESTION OF HIJAB: SUPPRESSION OR LIBERATION?
"Why do Muslim women have to cover their heads?" This question is one which is asked by Muslim and non-Muslim alike. For many women it is the truest test of being a Muslim.

The answer to the question is very simple - Muslim women observe HIJAB (covering the head and the body) because Allah has told them to do so.


"O Prophet, tell your wives and daughters and the believing women to draw their outer garments around them (when they go out or are among men). That is better in order that they may be known (to be Muslims) and not annoyed..." (Qur'an 33:59)
Other secondary reasons include the requirement for modesty in both men and women. Both will then be evaluated for intelligence and skills instead of looks and sexuality. An Iranian school girl is quoted as saying, "We want to stop men from treating us like sex objects, as they have always done. We want them to ignore our appearance and to be attentive to our personalities and mind. We want them to take us seriously and treat us as equals and not just chase us around for our bodies and physical looks." A Muslim woman who covers her head is making a statement about her identity. Anyone who sees her will know that she is a Muslim and has a good moral character. Many Muslim women who cover are filled with dignity and self esteem; they are pleased to be identified as a Muslim woman. As a chaste, modest, pure woman, she does not want her sexuality to enter into interactions with men in the smallest degree. A woman who covers herself is concealing her sexuality but allowing her femininity to be brought out.
The question of hijab for Muslim women has been a controversy for centuries and will probably continue for many more. Some learned people do not consider the subject open to discussion and consider that covering the face is required, while a majority are of the opinion that it is not required. A middle line position is taken by some who claim that the instructions are vague and open to individual discretion depending on the situation. The wives of the Prophet (S) were required to cover their faces so that men would not think of them in sexual terms since they were the "Mothers of the Believers," but this requirement was not extended to other women.

The word "hijab" comes from the Arabic word "hajaba" meaning to hide from view or conceal. In the present time, the context of hijab is the modest covering of a Muslim woman. The question now is what is the extent of the covering? The Qur'an says:


"Say to the believing man that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that will make for greater purity for them; and Allah is well acquainted with all that they do. And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; and that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what must ordinarily appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands..." (Qur'an 24:30-31)
These verses from the Qur'an contain two main injunctions:

A woman should not show her beauty or adornments except what appears by uncontrolled factors such as the wind blowing her clothes, and
the head covers should be drawn so as to cover the hair, the neck and the bosom.
Islam has no fixed standard as to the style of dress or type of clothing that Muslims must wear. However, some requirements must be met. The first of these requirements is the parts of the body which must be covered. Islam has two sources for guidance and rulings: first, the Qur'an, the revealed word of Allah and secondly, the Hadith or the traditions of the Prophet Muhamm