If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you,
nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his
behavior. Allow your intuition or spirit to save you from heartache.


Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to
be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find
what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was
not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A
friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he
is stringing you along, then he probably is! Don't stay because you
think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for
staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a
relationship is you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you
any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you,
speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you
later. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if
he has more education or in a better job.

Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing
less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's
man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat
you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You
should not be the one doing all the bending... compromise is two way
street.

You need time to heal between relationships... there is nothing cute
about baggage... Deal with your issues before pursuing a new
relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... a
relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... look for someone
complimentary... not supplementary. Dating is fun... even if he doesn't
turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes... when a man always know where you are,
and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.
Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. Don't fully
commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him
in your radar but get to know others.

Share this with other women and men (just so they know)... You'll make
someone smile, another rethink her/his choices, and another woman
prepare, and a man aware.....