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• 2 more nasty Chinese people.

  Okay, here's the background. I placed this ad on thatsbj about 3 weeks ago. It's still running. It goes:
  
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  Title: Looking for a Chinese Girlfriend.
  I'm a 33 year old single man living in Beijing. I'm from Ireland originally. I'm looking for a Chinese girlfriend in Beijing. I have a two bedroom apartment here in Beijing and I'm looking for someone to live with me. I've been in Beijing for 13 months now and I love it here. I'm thinking of making a new life for me here. But, I get lonely sometimes and I'm looking for companionship with a like-minded woman. I'm a philosopical guy with opinions on the issues of the day. I'm very interested in politics and world affairs as well as history. I like to do exercise every day and I try to eat healthily and do as much cooking as possible at home.
  
  I'm looking for an independent woman(both emotionally and financially) who is creative and open-minded.
  
  I keep a blog here:
  
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  Please e-mail/msn me back at *************************
  or phone/text me at ******************.
  
  At least one photo would be appreciated.
  
  Thank you.
  
  Paul Carr
  
  (*************************) = contact details have been removed for this blog post only.
  There were also 2 photos of me attached to the ad above
  
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  Okay, I'll start with the more nasty one first. She replied via e-mail to my thatsbj ad 2 days ago remarking that she likes Bailey's. Bailey's is an alcoholic drink from Ireland which I have found many western learning Chinese also like. She leaves her mobile phone number on this e-mail. So,anyway, yesterday morning, I text her to say I like Bailey's too and I introduce myself. Okay, she texts me back and asks me for my msn e-mail. Presumably, she had forgotten about my ad.(my msn e-mail address is given there) Anyway, I give it to her. Silly selfish git!!.(I mean her not me) Okay, yesterday morning, we chat. What did we chat about? Let me think... hmm... I've every intention, by the way, to delete all records of my conversations with her now and I'm not about to peruse whatever records there may be on msn history to find out exactly what we wrote to each other. So, let's skip that for now.
  
  Anyway, yesterday evening, we resume our chat on msn. She tells me briefly her siuation and then finally says she's looking for a place to live. Ah, now, you're getting the picture? I think she saw on my ad, or remembered that on my ad, I said I had a two bedroom apartment and, you know, she wanted the other room., you know, like be a roommate where maybe, I'll be so so nice to her and give her a big discount.. Anyway, I didn't reply. About 10 minutes later, she asks me (she types me), "Are you retarded?". Well, I couldn't believe it!!. Perhaps, I did see red but I think, with good reason. What is this? Because I don't reply to her telling me her story, I'm retarded? I clariify to her that I am looking for a girlfriend, not a roommate as per the thatsbj ad, shown above. I told her that she was retarded for thinking I wanted a roommate. I then also called her an idiot!!. Which she is, by the way!! Stupidly, in hindsight, I let her continue to type (in hindsight, I should have barred her there and then - maybe I was just in a state of shock!). She then wrote the following triumphalist, childish, girlish, girly drivel. Something like this. "You'll never find a girlfriend because you are an idiot. LOL". Or something like that. I honestly can't remember exactly what she wrote but it was triumphalist girly girlish bullshit. Crap. I was going to reply with "I don't believe you're really laughing" but she had already gone offline (99% certain she had barred me). Well, the fucking bitch got her foot in first. Next time, I won't be so nice. (with whoever) Oh, yeah, I remember now, yesterday morning, she wanted my pictures. Despite the fact,

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• Dear Mother (Part 2)

  It has occurred to me that in my previous letter to you,mother, I've been far far too light on you. I have this problem,I think. I'm too too timid. With you, is no exception.
  
  First of all, I want to make clear to you. My sex blogs are still up and running!!.
  
  Oh, yes, I haven't given up on those. The only thing is I have removed the links to them from my europeanpaulcarr msn space which I believe you have visited, Mother. (*) I removed those links because a few months ago, msn spaces, in their collective wisdom (in other words, they received complaints) deleted my space and when I enquired why later they told me that the links to my sexy blogs were unacceptable. So, I removed them after I promised I would do so. They had reactivated my blog. I haven't updated my sex blogs in a while, yes, not since the beginning of July but I have every intention to do so, Mum.
  
  And, this brings me onto another thing. Your War on me. Ever since you've been barging into my apartment and my life (see my previous post), you have insisted on purusing through my things, reading my private letters, invading my privacy in all sorts of unacceptable ways, ever since you discovered that letter of dismissal from that boss in the English language school in Dublin, you have been relentlessly attacking me because of the sex blogs, the keeping of which was part of the reason that boss fired me from that job in January 2006. You won't let up. You should. Because, every time, you criticise me, Mum, I'll respond by freezing you out. Right now, you're frozen out of my life until about the 18 of October. [sighs]. Your last outburst really took me by surprise. For those of you reading this blog, what I mean by "frozen out" is that I'm not taking her phone calls, not reading her e-mails and so on. But, to be honest, I think 2 months is too too generous, in other words, too bloody short.
  
  Oh, and I checked my mastercard account and I've discovered that you are STILL putting money into my account despite the fact that I told you during our last telephone conversation around the 18th of August, not to do that. I told you that you didn't have my permission to do that, don't do that, et cetera, et cetera. But, you do anyway. Why? Because, Mum, you don't listen to me and you never will. Stop putting money into my account , Mum. Give the money to charity, like you say, or give it to your other son and/or daughter.
  
  As I told you during our telephone conversation last time, I can look after myself and, really, Mummy Dear, the only reason why you give me money is so that you can abuse me later. So,really, I have to say to you, No, No, No, I don't want your money, Mother, I don't want your abuse. I asked you a question during our last phone conversation. I asked you had I asked you for money at all this year and you answered, no I hadn't. Yes, mother, No I hadn't. So,stop, stop, stop, giving me money. Okay...
  
  [sighs]. Because, if you continue to do so (and I've noticed you put more money into my mastercard account as recently as the 22nd of August), I may have to extend your freeze out by another 2 months. That's right, Mum. I won't talk to you until after the 18th of December this year. Do you want that?
  
  [sighs]. What else?
  
  Oh, yeah, probably the most deflating thing you said to me was you were scared of me. You said, "I'm scared of you.". My question is why? I haven't asked you for money this year. I'm nearly on the other side of the world. But, you know, Mum, I respect your right and valid and honest feelings of being scared of me. My question to you is, is 2 months freeze-out kind? Why should I talk to you ever again, Mum?. Since, you're scared of me, it defies logic for me to pick up the phone and talk to you anymore. It defies logic for me to ever return to Ireland and visit you. It defies logic to allow you to visit me in China in 2008 or anytime after. You dug this hole yourself, Mum. Why should I

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• Dear Mother

  I must admit that your phone call to me a few days ago and your attitude towards me in this phone call took me by surprise. For 2 months previously, you had behaved yourself. But, a few days ago, you were back to your old critical self of me. So, what did you say? Hmm, You said that this harasser, oh, yes, this guy who has been harassing me on the phone, what was it, yeah, yeah, I'm harassing him. Oh, I don't know how you come to that conclusion, Mummy Dear. But, I have a question for you. This harasser has been using up to 8 phone numbers to phone me. One of which is a Hong Kong based mobile phone number. But, sometimes, when you phone me to my mobile phone, a number comes up on my mobile which corresponds to one of the harasser's phone numbers.. Why is that, Mother? Do you have an answer?
  
  Okay, I want to go over some old ground with you. First of all, you are very aggressive towards me, Mother. You don't listen to anything I say. Back at the end of 2005, you *insisted* on having a key to my Dublin apartment copied so that you can come and go into and out of my apartment as you pleased. You didn't care if I said "No". You were going to have your own way.
  
  At the time I was fired from my job at a certain English language school in Dublin in January 2006, you came into my apartment, without my authorization, without my permission, to snoop and clean my apartment. You discovered the letter of dismissal from that nasty boss of that particular "school".
  
  Let me say this, mother. A number of things. First of all, people come and go into and out of jobs all the time, sometimes, people are fired. That's life. I was fired. That's life. I moved on. Unfortunately, you haven't. Ever since, you haven't given me a moment's peace about that. You won't let it go.
  
  This is your problem not mine. As a result of this absurd and stupid behaviour on your part, I have been forced to ostracise you, for 2 months or so in 2006, during the spring and into the summer of 2006, again this spring of 2007, and now, once again, after your latest outburst against me on the phone, for another 2 months into October. I don't have to take your crap, Mum. Life's tough enough as it is.
  
  Yeah, Mum, right now, I'm really really angry with you and, yeah, I have been tempted to write some nasty things about you in this post. Your outburst a few days ago kinda took me by surprise. And, I was real annoyed about it at the time too. I'm going to enjoy my 2 month break from you, Mum.
  
  Paul Carr
  

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