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	Feeling agro? Argue alot? Are you passive, aggressive, or assertive?	28 Tage her
	Read this at ReachOut.com: http://ie.reachout.com/connect/blog/... Most arguments-- whether with parents, mates, or boyfriends/girlfriends-- come from some breakdown in communication. And a lot of these can be avoided if you recognise these common communication mistakes. See if you or another person typically take aggressive, passive, or assertive stances, and let us know in the comments what you did to be an assertive communicator, or how you addressed someone who was communicating aggressively or passively. Aggressive Communication It's expressed in a forceful and hostile manner, and usually involves alienating messages such as 'you-statements' (blaming the other person and accusing them of being wrong or at fault) and labeling. In addition, the person's tone of voice and facial expressions are unfriendly. The assumption behind aggressive communication is 'Your needs don't matter' (I win/you lose). Passive Communication This involves putting your needs last. You don't express your thoughts or feelings, or ask for what you want. When you use passive communication it feels like others are walking all over you because you don't assert your own needs. So, you bottle things up and might feel resentful. The assumption behind passive communication is 'My needs don't matter' (You win/I lose - and I resent you for that). Assertive Communication Communicating assertively clearly expressing what you think, how you feel and what you want, without demanding that you must have things your way. The basic underlying assumption is 'We both matter - let's try to work this out'. Assertive communication increases your likelihood of getting what you want, avoiding conflict and maintaining good relationships (I win/you win). When you are assertive you can: * Express your own thoughts, feelings and needs * Make reasonable requests of other people (While accepting their right to say 'no') * Stand up for your own rights * Say 'no' to requests from others at times, without feeling guilty. Read more on the fact sheet on effective communication, http://ie.reachout.com/find/articles... And for tips on good communication techniques, check out more tips for communicating effectively http://ie.reachout.com/find/articles...
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